Wednesday, April 8, 2015

A-Z Challenge: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "G"

Throughout the A-Z Challenge I'll be blogging through the alphabet using each letter to create a list of Random Acts of Kindness. I've been collecting RAK ideas for some time now as I gear up to the 2016 launch of a project dear to my heart: B(e) Kind 366. I'll be performing an act of kindness every day of the leap year starting January 1st, 2016 while raising funds for World University Service of Canada (WUSC), an organisation that changed my life.

I'm starting each post with a synonym (of sorts) for kindness. I added this part to my posts because of an amazing movement I am a part of 1000 Voices Speak for Compassion. We link up monthly and blog about changing the world for the better. It's magical really. We're even on Twitter! @1000Speak

G is for Give

Googly Eye Bombing
is one of my favourite RAKs
Gifts - send one to someone, anyone - your trash collector, mail person, bus driver, teacher, a stranger. Give a gift basket to someone working on Christmas. Give a mental gift. (Since January is my birthday month I’ll be sending a gift to everyone who donates to B(e) Kind 366 in January of 2016).
Garden - plant your own (you can even do it indoors), tend someone else’s, get involved in a community one.
Give something up - soda, chocolate, potato chips, or - dare I say it - COFFEE, for a week or push yourself and give something up for a whole month. Who knows maybe you’ll stick with it!
Googly Eye Bomb!

That's it for my "G" List! Tomorrow's "H" List is a bit longer. Any guesses on what the "H" synonym will be?

I'm always on the look out for more ideas so please help me build my list of Random Acts of Kindness by leaving suggestions in the comments!

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Tuesday, April 7, 2015

A-Z Challenge: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "F"

Throughout the A-Z Challenge I'll be blogging through the alphabet using each letter to create a list of Random Acts of Kindness. I've been collecting RAK ideas for some time now as I gear up to the 2016 launch of a project dear to my heart: B(e) Kind 366. I'll be performing an act of kindness every day of the leap year starting January 1st, 2016 while raising funds for World University Service of Canada (WUSC), an organisation that changed my life.

I'm starting each post with a synonym (of sorts) for kindness. I added this part to my posts because of an amazing movement I am a part of 1000 Voices Speak for Compassion. We link up monthly and blog about changing the world for the better. It's magical really. We're even on Twitter! @1000Speak

I had a friend deliver these to a public health
nurse in my community. 
F is for Forgive

Fair Trade - promote it, buy it! Take on the Fair Trade Challenge.
Favour - do one for someone. 
Find - out about something new, a new hobby, time for someone special, time for yourself! 
Floss - be kind to your gums!
Flowers - send some, deliver some - to family, friends, nurses, strangers! Leave some on the graves of loved ones and strangers.
Foster - an animal from a shelter.
Freebie - give yours away (ex. on a buy ten, get one free card).
Friend - make a new one, spend time with an old one, reconnect with a lost one, do something special for one. 
Fun - go have some! Whatever it is - just do it!
Fundraise - for a good cause. 

That's it for my "F" List! I'm always on the look out for more ideas so please help me build my list of Random Acts of Kindness by leaving suggestions in the comments!

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Monday, April 6, 2015

Restrictive Pronouns: Reading and Writing Ungendered

After reading Book Riot Contributor Rah Carter's article, "Missed LGBT History Month? There's a Book For That," I immediately ordered Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to Denis Rodman by Leslie Feinberg. I wanted to read it primarily for my own interest and lack of knowledge on the subject matter and secondly because it would fit two categories of The Book Riot 2015 Read Harder Challenge: Challenge 5 - A book by or about someone that identifies as LGBTQ and Challenge 10 – a microhistory. Actually, come to think of, it would also fit Challenge 6: A book by a person whose gender is different from your own.


I haven't learned this much from a book in a long time and that's saying a lot considering I'm a Master's of Arts student in English Literature. It's only fitting to quote Feinberg in explaining what Transgender Warriors is about: "It is a fresh look at sex and gender in history and the interrelationships of class, nationality, race, and sexuality." Feinberg explains the difference between transgender and transsexual and lists a whole host of terms that fit within the definition of "transgender." As Feinberg struggles to come to terms with identity and treatment by society in general, readers go on a historical journey through an often hidden, but highly non-heteronormatively sexualized past. My heart hurt many times over as the microhistory moved into the more recent realms of patriarchy and capitalism that lead to the disgusting treatment of transgender people that sadly still occurs today. Don't get me wrong, as a society we have come a very long way, but we still have a very long way to go.

As I read personal statements like, "People stare at me wherever I so. Some who gawk at me shift between seeing me as a very feminine man and extremely masculine woman. I unnerve them because they can't determine my sex," it really hit me how much a person's gender is simply irrelevant. Feinberg includes a quote from Craig Hickman, poet and performance artist, that says "I often am seen by people as a 'What's that?' to which I usually respond 'Isn't beautiful enough?' We are attracted to people, to personalities, and even though physical attraction is very important, why - really - is the gender associated with any one characteristic important at all?

If I had to choose only one thing that had the most impact on me from this book, it would be the realization that language is so very restrictive. "Language can't be ordered individually, as if from a Sears catalog," writes Feinberg. I have a number of friends, colleagues, and acquaintances that could be labelled under one or more of the LGBTQ category. I have a best friend who is currently doing graduate studies research on bisexual female youth in sport and one of the most difficult parts of the research is finding people who are willing to label themselves. And really, who can blame them?

You may have noticed that I avoided using any gendered pronouns in this post, or maybe you didn't. Either way, the point is that writing ungendered can be done! After all, why should we define ourselves by a pronoun?!

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I haven't been able to get the ideas of writing ungendered and reading about ungendered characters out of my mind since I read Feinberg's book. I did a quick internet search for books that contain gender-neutral characters and was pleasantly surprised at the results. Here are just a few I plan to add to my TBR list:

Lock In by John Scalzi

This is a Sci-Fi novel that follows the story of two police agents, Chris Shane and Leslie Vann (two obviously gender-neutral names), twenty-five years after the outbreak of a contagious virus that causes one percent of its victims to become "Hadens" - fully alert humans who are unable to respond to stimuli or move. Main character, Chris Shane - whose gender is never revealed - is a Haden investigating the murder of a fellow Haden. An "Integrator" is someone who can allow a Haden to use their body which is how agent Shane functions. I actually think I'm going to check out one of the two audio-versions of Lock In, either the one narrated by Wil Wheaton (pretty cool, right?!) or the one by Amber Benson (also cool).


Brooklyn, Burning by Steve Brenzenoff

This one is YA Fiction and tells the story of sixteen-year old Kid (clearly gender-neutral). Kid's life on the streets of Brooklyn is full of adventure and love and the gender of the main character nor the lover, Scout, is ever revealed. YA is typically a genre that never really seems to be able to capture my interest, but this novel and its ungendered characters has already peaked mine.


Call Me Tree by Maya Christina Gonzalez

Of all the books that came up during my search, this colourful work of Children's Literature is the most intriguing. I say that because it is a children's book and if we are going to start changing the conversation about gender and its arguable lack of importance, then the best place to start is with our children. Gonzalez' main character obviously goes by the name Tree and the story explores the idea of why someone is called he or she and the assumptions made when calling someone by a gendered pronoun. I may be an adult, but Call Me Tree is definitely a book I want to add to my collection and introduce my own children to (whenever that day comes).

A-Z Challenge: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "E"

Throughout the A-Z Challenge I'll be blogging through the alphabet using each letter to create a list of Random Acts of Kindness. I've been collecting RAK ideas for some time now as I gear up to the 2016 launch of a project dear to my heart: B(e) Kind 366. I'll be performing an act of kindness every day of the leap year starting January 1st, 2016 while raising funds for World University Service of Canada (WUSC), an organisation that changed my life.

I'm starting each post with a synonym (of sorts) for kindness. I added this part to my posts because of an amazing movement I am a part of 1000 Voices Speak for Compassion. We link up monthly and blog about changing the world for the better. It's magical really. We're even on Twitter! @1000Speak

Peanut Butter Burger
E is for Equality

E-Card - send one!
Eat - with someone, something new, something foreign, something someone asks you to try (even if you think it's strange).
Egg - someone! This is a great idea for the Easter season, but really anytime would do!
Expired - posters on community boards - take them down and recycle them.
Explain - something to someone who is having difficulties understanding. 
Exercise - 30 minutes/day or 10,000 steps/day (I will be exercising a.k.a. walking, running, cycling, etc. one km for every dollar donated during the month of June in 2016.)

That's it for my "E" List! It's a little shorter this time around. Please help me build my list of Random Acts of Kindness by leaving suggestions in the comments!

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Saturday, April 4, 2015

A-Z Challenge: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "D"

Throughout the A-Z Challenge I'll be blogging through the alphabet using each letter to create a list of Random Acts of Kindness. I've been collecting RAK ideas for some time now as I gear up to the 2016 launch of a project dear to my heart: B(e) Kind 366. I'll be performing an act of kindness every day of the leap year starting January 1st, 2016 while raising funds for World University Service of Canada (WUSC), an organisation that changed my life.

I'm starting each post with a synonym (of sorts) for kindness. I added this part to my posts because of an amazing movement I am a part of 1000 Voices Speak for Compassion. We link up monthly and blog about changing the world for the better. It's magical really. We're even on Twitter! @1000Speak

D is for Dedication

Dance – with a loved one, with a stranger, by yourself, in public, in private, in the rain! Take a dance class alone or with a partner. Play the video below and dance right now!
Date Night – plan one with someone special, plan one for someone else. Deliver a date nightbox!
Diapers – donate some, leave some along with wipes on a public washroom change table.
Ding Dong Ditch – a nice surprise for a friend, neighbour, complete stranger!
Documentary – watch one! 
Donate – money, goods (clothing, food, toys, school supplies, hygiene products), items to a charity yard sale, your time. The Stephen LewisFoundation organizes an Aeroplan donation campaign every year. Make an appointment to donate blood. Fill out your organ donor card or register online!
Drink – more water! Buy one for a friend!
Drive Thru – pay for the person behind you! 

That's it for my "D" List! Please help me build my list of Random Acts of Kindness by leaving suggestions in the comments!

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Friday, April 3, 2015

A-Z Challenge: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "C"

Throughout the A-Z Challenge I'll be blogging through the alphabet using each letter to create a list of Random Acts of Kindness. I've been collecting RAK ideas for some time now as I gear up to the 2016 launch of a project dear to my heart: B(e) Kind 366. I'll be performing an act of kindness every day of the leap year starting January 1st, 2016 while raising funds for World University Service of Canada (WUSC), an organisation that changed my life.

I'm starting each post with a synonym (of sorts) for kindness. I added this part to my posts because of an amazing movement I am a part of 1000 Voices Speak for Compassion. We link up monthly and blog about changing the world for the better. It's magical really. We're even on Twitter! @1000Speak

C is for Care & Compassion

Candle - light one for the spirit of someone or something. Just enjoy the ambiance of the flame!
Candy - make a sign giving away free candy. 
Celebrate – a holiday, a birthday, someone else, yourself! Celebrate The Small Stuff - join this awesome blog hop!
Challenge – take one on: do something new, do a daily fiction prompt, BLOG A-Z! Check out Rebecca Horner's 30in2015 for some awesome challenge ideas.
A photo from my last planned kindness endeavour!
Cheer - someone else on, yourself on!
Cheerleader Lolli - make one and leave it for a stranger. 
Clean – for yourself, for someone else. Clean up someone’s left-behind trash.
Coffee - buy one for a friend, for a stranger, give away your free one, leave a pre-paid coffee card for studying students. 
Coins - leave some on pay phones, in shopping carts, on toy/ candy/vending machines, at the laundromat, at a fountain so someone else can make a wish, on a mall ride. 
Compliment – a family member, a friend, and most importantly a stranger! Make a Free Compliments sign
Cook – for a loved one, for your neighbours. Take a cooking class by yourself or with a partner. Try a new recipe!
Colour - a picture; it's calming, with a child, leave colouring pages and crayons in public places, participate in a Colour Run!
Coupons – leave them on the items they discount for the next shopper to find. 

That brings me to the end of my "C" List! Please help me build my list of Random Acts of Kindness by leaving suggestions in the comments!

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Thursday, April 2, 2015

A-Z Challenge: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "B"

Throughout the A-Z Challenge I'll be blogging through the alphabet using each letter to create a list of Random Acts of Kindness. I've been collecting RAK ideas for some time now as I gear up to the 2016 launch of a project dear to my heart: B(e) Kind 366. I'll be performing an act of kindness every day of the leap year starting January 1st, 2016 while raising funds for World University Service of Canada (WUSC), an organisation that changed my life.

I'm starting each post with a synonym (of sorts) for kindness. I added this part to my posts because of an amazing movement I am a part of 1000 Voices Speak for Compassion. We link up monthly and blog about changing the world for the better. It's magical really. We're even on Twitter! @1000Speak

B is for Beauty and B(e) Kind and Brandy (that's ME)

Bake - and share! Contribute to a bake sale. Try a new recipe!
Big Brothers Big Sisters - be one!
Birds - make feeders and/or supply boxes for nests.
Blog - to promote a cause or just to say something kind. Visit other blogs and leave kind comments.
Bookmarks - make some, leave some in bookstore or library books for someone to find.
Books - about kindness.
Breakfast - eat a healthy one, leave a breakfast pack for a stranger.
Bride and Beyond - visit the blog and support this incredible project!
Bubble Wrap - pop it yourself, make "Instant Stress Relief" signs with it.
Bubbles - blow them for fun, for children at a park or playground, take them one step further and make massive ones!
Bus - take one instead of driving, leave the amount for a fare on the seat.
Butterfly pin - make some and leave them for someone to find!
Buy - local, something to support a fundraiser. 

That brings me to the end of my B-list! I've included a few links to some of these ideas, most of which I find on Pinterest, but if you are especially interested in any of them, please do let me know and I am more than willing to provide additional information!

Please help me build my list of Random Acts of Kindness by leaving suggestions in the comments!

Want to win some Jane Austen swag?! Who doesn't?! Check out my super fun "If Jane Austen Blogged A-Z" post and test your Janeite knowledge!