Wednesday, May 4, 2016

Guest Post with "Darkroom" Author Mary Maddox

Welcome to another exciting tour with Novel Publicity. Today we have a feature interview with the author!

In this interview, we dive deeper into the world of Darkroom, Mary's newest novel, just released this week. The characters, setting, and themes along with what makes them tick, and who was the loudest character that just wouldn’t shut up! You'll also get an in depth view into the writing process, and what makes Mary tick too.

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What inspired you to write this latest dark fantasy?

MM: Unlike the Daemon World books, Darkroom isn’t dark fantasy. It’s just dark—a suspense thriller influenced by film noir, black and white B movies from the 40s and 50s with stories that center on crime and sex and a worldview steeped in cynicism and fatalism.

Film noir has a distinctive visual look, black-and-white cinematography with Expressionist elements. Some filmmakers who fled to the US from Nazi Germany were largely responsible for this style. Two of the better known are Fritz Lang and Billy Wilder. And their visual style influenced directors like Orson Welles and Alfred Hitchcock.

In Darkroom, Day Randall has a unique visual style of her own. She takes photographs in black and white and develops the film in a darkroom. She’s a throwback to the past in the age of digital photography. Although her photographs don’t have the Expressionist flavor of film noir, they uncover the secrets of some very nasty people. And that gets her in trouble.

Like many noir protagonists, Kelly Durrell is an innocent who enters a sinister world where she doesn’t belong. Gangsters like Gregory Tyson and Stuart Helm are alien to her. So are morally ambiguous people like Animal, one of Tyson’s underlings, who might help her find Day. Or not.

A well-known noir archetype is the femme fatale, a beautiful woman who destroys the men who love her. In The Maltese Falcon, the femme fatale played by Mary Astor uses several men—and gets them killed—before she meets her match in P.I. Sam Spade, played by Humphrey Bogart. Odette Helm isn't in the same league, but like Astor's character, she acts a lot more helpless than she is.

Another of my noir favorites is The Big Heat with Lee Marvin and Gloria Graham. Graham, one of my all-time favorite film actors, is a bubbly goodtime girl until her gangster boyfriend, played by Marvin, throws coffee in her face. Then she’s out for vengeance. Lee Marvin makes a great bad guy. If Darkroom became a movie and Marvin were still alive, I’d want him to play Helm’s henchman Yount.

I slipped an allusion to another noir film into Darkroom. Readers who watch a lot of old movies will recognize it.

How is this book similar and different from Talion and Daemon Seer?

MM: Along with having no supernatural elements, Darkroom contains less violence than either Talion or Daemon Seer, but its violent scenes are rather graphic.

Like Talion, Darkroom is written in close, or deep, third-person from multiple perspectives. I favor this point of view because it’s fun getting inside the heads of a variety of characters. The down side is that the hero can be elbowed out of the
central role. Other characters move the story forward while she's dragged along, a passive victim of events. The villain can take over the story. The serial killer Rad Sanders, the Professor of Death, dominates
Talion. To keep this from happening in Darkroom, I included several bad guys. The most interesting of them is Gregory Tyson because his motives are the most complex.
Your latest novel includes a character with bipolar disorder. How much research into this illness did you do before writing the character?

MM: Mood disorders, including bipolar, run in my family. I luckily don't suffer from bipolar, but I’ve seen the havoc it causes. Over the years I’ve read books and articles about mood disorders and spoken to people who suffer from them, so I didn’t need to do additional research for Darkroom.

Bipolar people are often creative, like Day Randall, and the medicines used to prevent manic episodes can dampen creative energy. That’s why Day chooses not to take them.

People with bipolar disorder are prone to substance abuse, which can trigger manic episodes that culminate in psychosis. So Kelly gets worried when Day smokes hash in the first chapter.

Is research a part of all your writing? Where are your go-to places?

I always need to do some research for my novels. Before writing from the point of view of Rad, the serial killer in Talion, I read about two dozen books. Some are books about serial killers written by psychologists or FBI profilers. Others are broader in scope and examine violent behavior in general. Two of my favorites in the second category are A. Lyall Watson’s Dark Nature: A Natural History of Evil and Richard Rhodes’ Why They Kill: The Discoveries of a Maverick Sociologist. These books are worth reading even if you have no particular interest in serial killers.

Watson comes at the problem of violence from a sociobiological perspective, pointing out how human behavior is similar to that of other animals. What many people call evil is amorality rather than immorality. Someone can be immoral only in relation to a moral system: you need to have rules to be defined as a rule breaker. Someone who’s amoral has no rules, but their actions can explained in terms of biological imperatives like survival and the drive to reproduce. Interestingly, one kind of behavior Watson has trouble
explaining is sadistic violence, killing someone just for fun. Where’s the evolutionary advantage in that?

Rhodes’ book is a biography of the sociologist Lonnie Athens, who grew up surrounded by violence and made it his life’s work to understand why human beings are violent. He conducted numerous interviews with prisoners serving time for murder and other violent crimes. The information he gained from these criminals led him to a theory that runs counter to the thinking of most sociologists. Rather than seeing incorrigible violence as a psychopathology, Athens argues that it’s a behavior that can be taught to anyone. His theory explains how people become violent, stage by stage.

Why They Kill turned out to be useful in writing the violent characters in Darkroom. Gregory Tyson (Gee) recalls watching his brother torture and kill a man who owed him money. This is an example of what Athens calls horrification—being forced to watch helplessly as someone else is attacked, defeated, and humiliated. The incident explains some of Gee’s actions later in the story.

A useful—and fun—kind of research is field research. For Daemon Seer I went to Park City. For Darkroom I went to Boulder. While it’s possible to view images of these places online, being there allows you breathe in the atmosphere. I guess visiting art museums counts as research for Darkroom although I do it for enjoyment. Museums and art books gave me enough background to imagine the fictional paintings in the novel.

I interviewed the curator of a small museum to discover what sorts of tasks she might perform. Earlier drafts show more of Kelly at work, interacting with her boss and others at the Museum of the Rockies. Most of the work scenes got cut from the final draft because they slowed down the story, but the research gave me a solid base on which to build Kelly's life.

I did some reading about art and photography specifically for Darkroom. I discovered Larry Clark, the photographer and filmmaker whose style and subject matter is similar to Day’s. He may be best known for his 1995 film Kids, a raw portrayal of urban teenagers.

While traveling, I passed through the Denver airport and had a look at the art on display there. It’s a wonderful collection. Since the novel has a scene (or actually two scenes) at the airport, I did some research. The collection consist of the work of
contemporary artists. Most of it is rather edgy. The kind of art that not everyone appreciates.

The most controversial piece is Blue Mustang, a huge outdoor sculpture that's visible as one approaches the airport. The artist, Luis Jimenez, was killed when a piece of the sculpture fell on him. As a result, some people think the Blue Mustang is cursed. Nicknamed Blucifer, it’s a fearsome looking horse, electric blue with fiery red eyes, rearing over 30 feet in the air. And, as one reporter noted, Blue Mustang is “anatomically correct.”

Darkroom begins with two characters, Kelly and Day. Can you tell us a bit more about each; what would be their favorite foods, car and travel spot, if they were real human beings?

Although Kelly and Day are good friends, they’re opposites in most ways.

Kelly grew up in a small Midwestern town and yearned to go somewhere more exciting. She likes foreign foods from Indian to Italian to Asian. She enjoys cooking when she has time. In the first chapter she tries to show Day how to make curried lamb. Kelly is happy driving her Jeep Cherokee. It’s a useful vehicle in the mountains and has plenty of cargo space. Of course Kelly loves museums. She’s visiting the Art Institute in Chicago when Day disappears. As a teenager she was awed by to the Metropolitan Museum in New York, which moved her toward a career in art.

Day loves fast food—burgers, French fries, and pizza—and eating at pancake restaurants any time of day. She desperately needs a new car. Her Corolla has over 160,000 miles on the odometer. She would be happy with any vehicle that gets good gas mileage. Day’s parents were wanderers who never stayed anywhere long. She yearns to settle down and finally gets the chance when she stays with Kelly in Boulder.

Photography plays a big role in the book, as well as Day’s darkroom. How did you use photos to advance the plot throughout the story?

Day takes photos that reveal a terrible secret. To protect herself, she prints several sets of the photos, hides some of them, and sends others to various people. She believes that she won't be harmed as long as the photos could come to light. The people who need to protect the secret are searching for them. And those people are ruthless.

This book has some dark themes with drug trafficking and sexual predators. How emotionally taxing was it to write about these subjects, and what did you do to unwind/recharge after particularly tough spots in the novel?

The emotional toll of writing about violence and other dark subjects depends on the writer's distance from them. In Darkroom, a businessman and drug dealer named Gee recalls an incident from his teenage years. Gee had witnessed his older brother torturing and killing a man. He’s horrified yet powerless to help the victim, and he tries not to acknowledge those feelings. I found the scene hard to write because the point of view is close. Events are filtered through the character’s perceptions. Describing the horrible things the brother does to the victim was easier than imagining Gee’s response to them.

In another scene from Darkroom, a rape victim awakens with no memory of the previous evening. She knows she’s been raped because of the pain. She guesses who raped her and she’s furious. The rape happened at the Cascade, the club where she works, and reporting it to the police will mean losing her job. She has no money saved, no friend she trusts enough to confide in, and she doesn’t want her parents to know what happened. She needs to find the strength to go on with her life. It was difficult imagining her helplessness and outrage. In revision I cut the scene from the novel because it doesn’t advance the plot, but writing it helped me know the character better.

I don’t experience the process as emotionally taxing while I’m writing. My imagination takes over. But afterward I feel drained. I relax by doing something physical. Taking a walk is good, especially with a friend. I’m lucky enough to own a horse, a beautiful Andalusian. Riding is one of the best ways to unwind from creative work because it demands concentration on the process. If I obsess over a difficult or emotionally taxing scene, I’m liable to wind up in the dirt.

Are you an author that hears the voice of characters in your head? If so, which character from Darkroom was the loudest, and which one just wouldn’t shut up?

Both Day and Animal, the bouncer at the Cascade, have distinctive and persistent voices. They’re the characters I most enjoyed writing and the ones readers seem to like most.

The most surprising character was Animal’s girlfriend, Nina. In a key scene she refused to follow my plot outline. She just refused! I struggled with the scene for a couple of days before giving in and writing it her way. Then I changed the story to accommodate her decision. It turned out she was right, the story played out in a more interesting way.

We don’t want to spoil the ending for anyone, but we do want to ask . . . when you were writing the story, did it always end the same way, or did you have alternate endings?

From the first draft I knew how it would end, but the story changed radically during revision.

Now for a fun one. If Darkroom were a drink, recipe, painting, and geographic location, what would it be?

Darkroom is a red wine, something smooth and rich like Gee serves to Kelly.

It's the painting behind Gee's desk:

“A demon cloaked in flames. Its sulfurous eyes glinted through a sooty cloud that partly obscured its face. Behind the fangs of its yawning mouth, a chrome-yellow crucifix stuck in its throat. The painting captured the unstable instant when the demon would either swallow the crucifix or choke.”

It's the mountains behind Stuart Helm's estate, empty and wild and sinister.

About the Books

There’s plenty of room for another grave in the mountains . . .

Talented but unstable photographer Day Randall has been living rent-free in Kelly Durrell’s Colorado condo for eight months. Day needs someone to keep an eye on her. Kelly needs someone to draw her out of her stable but not spectacular life. The arrangement works for both of them.

Then Kelly comes home one day to find Day gone. There’s no note, no phone call. Day’s car is still parked out front, but her room is starkly, suspiciously spotless.

No one seems to care. The police certainly aren’t interested in a missing bipolar artist, but Kelly knows something is wrong. Day wouldn’t just leave.

Alone, Kelly traces Day’s last steps through shadowy back rooms of Boulder nightclubs and to a remote mountain estate, where the wealthy protect themselves behind electric fences and armed guards. Along the way, she uncovers a sinister underworld lying just below the mountain snow, and a group of powerful people who will do anything to protect the secrets hidden in Day’s enigmatic photographs.

If she trusts the wrong person, Kelly herself will be the next to disappear.

“. . . tight, compelling, and convincing writing that is also witty and insightful."
— Jon A. Jackson, author of Hit on the House and No Man’s Dog

“I couldn’t put this novel down. Darkroom is suspenseful and beautifully written. Kelly Durrell is a deftly-drawn, intelligent, and likable heroine.”
— Daiva Markelis, author of White Field, Black Sheep: A Lithuanian-American Life

“. . . unexpected plot twists and suspenseful action. The murder mystery is dark and menacing, and the characters are multi-faceted.”
— RT Source

More about the Author

Mary Maddox is a horror and dark fantasy novelist with what The Charleston Times-Courier calls a "Ray Bradbury-like gift for deft, deep-shadowed description." Born in Soldiers Summit, high in the mountains of Utah, Maddox graduated with honors in creative writing from Knox College, and went on to earn an MFA from the University of Iowa Writers' Workshop. She taught writing at Eastern Illinois University and has published stories in various journals, including Yellow Silk, Farmer's Market, The Scream Online, and The Huffington Post. The Illinois Arts Council has honored her fiction with a Literary Award and an Artist's Grant.

Connect with Mary on her website, Facebook, or Twitter.

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Monday, May 2, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - Y is for Yes and Z is for Zip-a-dee-doo-dah Day

I fell a bit behind on the last two letters, but here they are. 

First, though, I'll explain B(e) Kind 366. It's a project I've been planning for a few years now that started on January 1st of 2016. Every day this year (366 days) I'm performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise), doing a monthly challenge of some sort, and raising funds for three charities that have effected my life: World University Service of Canada, The Women's Resource Centre, and the Canadian Cancer Society. 

I blogged A-Z last year with lists of potential acts. Here's the W, X, Y, and Z post from last year. I got sick near the end of last year's challenge so I had to write a couple of posts that included more than one letter. 

As for this year, Y is for Yes and Z is for Zip-a-dee-doo-dah Day! I came up with these because I had two really great days. I didn't do acts of kindness that start with Y or Z - mostly because there are a limited number of ideas under those letters. What I did do on those two days was so amazing that I decided "Yes" and "Zip-a-dee-doo-dah Day" were good descriptors of how I felt. 

On Friday  afternoon I participated in Indigenous ceremony and completed a hand drum at The Women's Resource Centre (one of the organizations I am raising funds for). I learned so much from the grandmothers who facilitated the workshop. The drums are comprised of two spirits: the buffalo's whose hide we used for the face of the drum and the tree's whose wood we used for the frame. Once the drums were completed, we feasted them with water and berries. They will be awakened in another ceremony on Thursday. I cannot wait!

Later in the evening on Friday, I spent time with some of the incredible people that make up World University Service of Canada (or WUSC and one of the other organizations B(e) Kind 366 is in place to raise funds for). There are sponsored students who fled countries such as Ethiopia, Somalia, and South Sudan in this photo. We had an "end of the school year" bbq and I sat and listened to discussions about life in the refugee camps and the politics of a number of African nations - one of my favourite things to do!

On Saturday, I spent the evening with my "Little" from Big Brothers Big Sisters. We went to an arcade and then made dinner together at my house. We watched a movie while we ate and on the way home he said to me, "I had a lot of fun today. How long do you think I'll be with you guys?" That melted my heart!  -- My Oh My What a Wonderful Day! --

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Thursday, April 28, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - X is for X's and O's

In 2016 I am performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise) every day of the year. That's where B(e) Kind 366 comes in! Last year I blogged A-Z with lists of potential acts of kindness. Here's the list for X if you're interested. I actually had a surprising number of options for X last year.

From that list I chose X's and O's. 

I made this simple little game and left it on a picnic table at a park close to my house. Coincidentally, when my partner and I went out for dinner tonight Elle King's "Ex's and Oh's" was playing at the restaurant and now I can't seem to get the tune and chorus out of my head!

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Wednesday, April 27, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - V is for Virtual Hug / W is for With

B(e) Kind 366 is a year long project where I perform an act of kindness (random or otherwise) each day of 2016. Last year I blogged A-Z with lists of potential acts of kindness. If you're interested here's the V list and the W list. A headache got the best of me yesterday so today's post contains two letters.

Yesterday, V was for Virtual Hug. I've been on an emotional roller coaster this week so yesterday was the perfect day for this act of kindness. I posted it on my own personal Facebook and on the profile of a family member who is part of this roller coaster.

Today W is for With - go With and wait With. I went with a colleague to drop off two strangers. It might not have been the smartest thing to do - two women dropping off two unknown men - but we believe in the good in people and went together. Following that little jaunt, we waited with another colleague while she waited for CAA. Her car wouldn't start after our meeting so after we dropped the two gentlemen off we came back to the office and waited with her. 

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Monday, April 25, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - U is for Unplug

We're in the final week of A-Z! B(e) Kind 366 still has 36 weeks left to go! I'm performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise) every day in 2016. Last year I blogged A to Z with lists of potential acts of kindness. Due to an illness I had to combine my S, T, U, and V posts, but if you're interested you can find that post here: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "S," "T," "U," and "V."

U is a tough letter. I only had two ideas listed under U last year: unplug and upside down. Earlier this year I performed the "upside down" act by building this snow person. I saw a grown man walk by, do a double take, and smile. Mission accomplished!

Since there's no snow (thankfully) left and I already performed the "upside down" act, the only one left was unplug. Before bed tonight, I unplugged all of the electronics, lamps, phone chargers, etc. that we leave plugged in all the time. I'll save a little power tonight and do the environment a small kindness.

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Sunday, April 24, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - T is for Take What You Need

B(e) Kind 366 is me being kind 366 days of this year - 2016. I've been planning this project for a few years now and while I try to be kind whenever I can, whenever the opportunity arises, this year, I am making a point of doing something consciously every day and keeping track of it.

Last year I blogged A-Z with lists of potential acts of kindness. I ran into some illness around this time last year so my last few letters of the challenge are combined. Here's my S, T, U, V post!

T is for one of my favourite random acts of kindness to perform: Take What You Need.

I made these posters and posted them on three random bulletin boards in the city. The last time I did this act of kindness was a few years ago when I was working at a university. A few days after I had posted these a colleague sent me a photo of "what she needed" - courage - and it made my day. I hope these 24 slips of paper find their place with someone who really needs them!

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Friday, April 22, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - S is for Save the Earth

B(e) Kind 366 is an initiative I've been planning for a few years and it's finally here. Every day in 2016 I'm performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise), taking on monthly challenges (like blogging A-Z), and raising funds for three organizations that have effected my life. 

Last year I blogged A-Z with lists of potential kind acts. Here's my S list, if you're interested: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "S."

It's Earth Day today so S is for the Save the Earth. 

My act of environmental kindness in honour of Earth Day was to sign up for the city's compost program. In a week or two we'll have a green bin and be ready to compost! I recently learned that food garbage doesn't decompose inside a regular trash bag. I feel like that is something that I should have known, but I didn't. In the near future, between recycling and composting we should have relatively little garbage!

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Thursday, April 21, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - R is for Recognition

Every day in 2016 I'm performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise) and calling the project B(e) Kind 366. Last year I blogged A-Z with lists of potential acts of kindness. If you'd care to take a look at my R list, here it is: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "R."

Today - Day 112 of B(e) Kind 366 - R is for Recognition.

I attended a large meeting today and as I was leaving I made sure to thank the woman who was recording the notes for the meeting. Often the people who do some of the most important work go unnoticed and therefore unrecognized. I try, in every instance that I can, to extend proper recognition.

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Wednesday, April 20, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - Q is for Quarters

B(e) Kind 366 has been in the making for a few years now. Every day in 2016 I am doing an act of kindness (random or otherwise), taking on monthly challenges (like blogging A-Z), and raising funds for three organizations that have impacted my life.

Last year I sorted my lengthy list of potential acts of kindness that I had been compiling for a couple of years into alphabetical lists and blogged them A-Z! Here is last year's Q list: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "Q."

I did two things with quarters today:
1. I gave a man all of the change (which included a few quarters) from my wallet on my way to work this morning.
2. I put two quarters in my coworker's expired parking meter to buy her a little extra time!

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Tuesday, April 19, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - P is for Politics

B(e) Kind 366 is all about doing kind things! 366 kind things - one for every day of 2016 - to be exact! In 2015 I blogged A-Z with lists of potential kindness ideas. Here's the P list from last year if you're interested: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "P."

Today P is for Politics.

It was the Provincial Election in Manitoba today so my act of kindness was expressing my right to vote. It's just that simple today!

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Monday, April 18, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - O is for Outside

Every day in 2016 I am performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise) and that is where B(e) Kind 366 comes from.

Last year I blogged A-Z with lists of potential acts of kindness. If you're interested, here's last year's O list: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "O."

Today O is for Outside.

We've had some really strange weather this spring: exceptionally warm, unseasonally cool, and today finally sunshiney and warm again! Today's act of kindness was for myself and my dogs! Their favourite thing to do is go for a walk and I don't mind soaking up some sunshine myself. I always feel a sense of pride when I walk my boys; they're so well behaved and have quite the presence. The two big guys, Chewie (left) and Winston (right) walk together on a joined leash and Memphis (middle) walks alone on his own leash. Two dogs on the right of me and one on the left! I didn't take a photo today, but here's the one from our wedding invitations - on my favs!

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Saturday, April 16, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - N is for News and Nigeria

Every day in 2016 I'm performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise) and that is what B(e) Kind 366 is all about. In 2015 I blogged A-Z with lists of kind acts. Here's the N list if you're interested: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "N."

Today I took an idea from last year's list and spent some time reading news articles and watching news videos about Nigeria's Boko Haram. It's very difficult for me to watch videos and read articles about human rights atrocities so I avoid them for the most part, but today I watched and today I read.

It's been two years since the militant group invaded a school and kidnapped more than 200 girls. We don't hear about #BringBackOurGirls much anymore, but for the families of the young girls in Nigeria the nightmare is still very real.

On April 14, 2016 Boko Haram released a video of 15 of the kidnapped girls reading their names and explaining that they are all alive and well. The Nigerian government confirms that they remain in negotiations with Boko Haram for the release of these girls.

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Friday, April 15, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - M is for Mom

In 2015 I blogged A-Z with lists of potential acts of kindness for each letter. Here's the M list if you're interested: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "M." All of that was leading up to 2016 when I started B(e) Kind 366 - an initiative where I am performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise) every day of the year.

This year and last year the letter M fell on April 15th, my Mom's birthday!

My Mom is the most important person in my life so today especially I celebrate her. 

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Thursday, April 14, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - L is for Learn

Every day in 2016 I'm performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise). That's what B(e) Kind 366 is all about! In 2015 I blogged A-Z with lists of potential acts of kindness beginning with each letter. Here's my L list from last year: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "L."

Today L is for Learn.

Today was the second and last day of Mental Health First Aid. It's a course that I truly feel everyone should take to gain a better understanding of mental illness. Over the two days I learned about mood disorders, self harm, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, and psychoses as well as how to aid people who are experiencing any of the many symptoms or effects that fall under these categories.

ALGEE is the reference guide for the five basic actions required to perform mental health first aid:
A - Assess the risk of suicide and/or harm
L - Listen non-judgmentally
G - Give reassurance and information
E - Encourage the person to get professional help
E - Encourage other supports

I honestly learned so much and I have no doubt that I'll be able to aid people in the future should the need arise.

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Wednesday, April 13, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - K is for Keepsake and Klinic

If you haven't been visiting my blog since the start of A-Z you'll have no clue what B(e) Kind 366 is. Since it's more likely than not that you haven't been with me from the start, I'll explain B(e) Kind 366 and the reasoning behind my posts. B(e) Kind 366 is a year long initiative that I created and have been planning for a few years now. Every day in 2016 I am performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise). I'm also taking on monthly challenges (like blogging A-Z) and raising funds for three organizations that are very dear to me. To visit my fundraising website click here: B(e) Kind 366.

In 2015 I blogged A-Z with lists of potential acts of kindness. If you're interested here's the K list from last year: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "K."

So, today's act of kindness, brought to us by the letter K, is two-fold.

One act is really for myself. At least five years ago my sister bought me the perfect wallet. I loved it and I still love it. But it's fallen apart. I transferred all of my things over to a new wallet today, but I just can't stand to part with the messages that the old one was adorned with. For me and as a statement to the importance of my relationship with my sister, I took the wallet apart and I'm going to frame the material as a keepsake for myself.

I'm using "Klinic" for the second act because Klinic is the name of a community health organization that has one of the important crisis phone numbers that I put in my cell phone today as well as onto my course outline for my class this coming fall. Klinic has the only sexual assault crisis phone line in the province of Manitoba. In addition to Klinic's 24-hour sexual assault crisis line I added the province's Domestic Violence Crisis Line, Adult Crisis Line, Youth Crisis Line, City Police, and Campus Security to my cell phone and to my course outlines for this fall. When it comes time to hand out my outlines in the fall, I plan to ask my students to take out their phones and input the numbers right then and there. If having these numbers in my own phone and them having the numbers in their phones makes a difference for one person, it's definitely worth it!

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Tuesday, April 12, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - J is for Journal

My B(e) Kind 366 act for today is one that I've loved ever since I stumbled across it. I left this kindness journal in the library at the university where I teach in the hopes that someone will find it and pass it along to keep the kindness going!

Last year I blogged A-Z with lists of potential acts of kindness for each letter. Here's last year's J list: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "J." Every day in 2016 I'm doing an act of kindness (random or otherwise) and raising funds for three incredible organizations. It's my hope that blogging about this project will encourage others to join the effort in some small (or large) way!

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Monday, April 11, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - I is for Invite and Inspire

Every day in 2016 I'm performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise) as part of a project I've been planning for a few years now: B(e) Kind 366. Last year I blogged A-Z with lists of potential kind acts. Here's the I list: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "I."

I thought today was going to be all about ice cream and although I did eat some myself I didn't use ice cream in any acts of kindness (other than to myself!).

Today I did a pretty simple act; I invited people to a fundraising event on Facebook that a friend of mine is having to help her pay for law school. She's having a Bannock Taco Sale (also known as Indian Tacos) and they are amazing so I've basically done everyone I invited a kindness for letting them know about it! Yum!

Another big part of B(e) Kind 366 is my goal to inspire others to be kind and so I leave you with my hope for this project and a list of Ways to Inspire Others

I also invite you to enter my giveaway over on my G post!

Saturday, April 9, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - H is for Hundredth Day and Happy Pills

This year my A-Z posts are all about B(e) Kind 366 - a year long initiative I've created where I perform an act of kindness (random or otherwise) every day in 2016. In 2015 my A-Z blog posts led up to B(e) Kind 366 with lists of potential acts beginning with each letter. Here's last year's H List: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "H."

Today happens to be Day 100 of B(e) Kind 366 and I marked today's milestones with an act that I've been wanting to do for a while: Happy Pills!

Of course I had to be careful who I gave these too. It couldn't really be anyone random; after all, "Happy Pills" could be construed as any number of things! One of my colleagues will be the happy recipient of these pills! I took my dogs for a nice long walk and left these on her door step.

Happy Hundredth Day!

Stop by my G is for Giveaway post this year and enter to win a Blind Date with a Book!

Friday, April 8, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - G is for Giveaway!

Last year I blogged A-Z with lists of acts of kindness. Here is G's list: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "G." This year I'm doing an act of kindness (random or otherwise) every day in 2016 - that's where B(e) Kind 366 comes from - and blogging about it for the month of April.

Today, G is for Giveaway!

For the rest of the A-Z Blog Challenge and until the end of May I'm hosting a giveaway for all of you wonderful visitors! The prize is a Blind Date with a Book. The winner will receive a random book of my choosing!

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Thursday, April 7, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - F is for Feet, Friends, & Stress Free

B(e) Kind 366 has been in the works for a few years now. Every day in 2016 I'm doing an act of kindness (random or otherwise). In 2015 I blogged A-Z with ideas for RAKs. Here's last year's F list: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "F."

Today was my best friend's birthday and my gift to her was a pedicure and dinner! We spent the afternoon at a salon getting our feet pampered and then had dinner out. It was below zero today, but our toes are ready for summer!

Today was also my last day teaching my first semester as a university instructor. After the students finished writing their final tests I handed out stress relief packages and said farewell!

Directions: Pop stress relieving capsules every four to six hours
or as needed. If symptoms persist, grab a sweet treat!
One specific idea from last year's F list is something I am actually doing every day: Fundraising. Part of B(e) Kind 366 is a fundraising campaign for three charitable organizations that have deeply effected my life. If you're able and interested in supporting me financially here's the link to my site: B(e) Kind 366.

Wednesday, April 6, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - E is for Eating (Local) and Ethical Purchasing

Last year I blogged A-Z with lists of potential acts of kindness. All of those lists were part of the planning process for this year's massive kindness project: B(e) Kind 366 where I am performing an act of kindness (random or otherwise) every day of this year!

Today is Day 97 and E is for Eating (local) and Ethical purchasing. 

The Dock is a pub located less than a block from my house. They serve a host of menu items prepared from locally grown ingredients and dare customers to be locavores: one who eats food grown locally whenever possible. Tonight I ordered one of their feature "locavore" items: Buffalo Chicken Dip made from local, farm-fed chickens. Recently my partner and I decided to stop purchasing meat from large big box grocery stores and instead are visiting one of the local butchers when we need to stock up on meat. The meat is a more expensive, but it's also more ethical and that just sits better with us.

For more acts of kindness here's last year's E List: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "E."

Tuesday, April 5, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - D is for Donating Dollars

A major part of B(e) Kind 366 is the fundraising campaign. Every day in 2016 I am doing an act of kindness - random or otherwise - and taking on additional challenges in an effort to raise some funds for three charitable organizations and spread kindness far and wide!

Blogging A to Z is my April challenge! In 2015 I blogged A-Z with lists of potential acts of kindness. Here is last year's D List: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "D."

Today I decided to DONATE for my act of kindness. 

A month ago the Pimicikamak Cree Nation, also known as Cross Lake First Nation, declared a state of emergency after 140 suicide attempts in two weeks and six suicides in two months. Massive changes need to be made in these remote northern communities. Donating a few dollars definitely isn't going to achieve those required changes, but it's something and I feel a strong need to do...something.

Through my B(e) Kind 366 efforts I am collecting funds for World University Services of Canada, an organization that advocates for refugee rights, specifically access to education, and has changed my life; The Women's Resource Centre, an organization that counsels and supports women and children who have been effected by domestic or family violence; and the Canadian Cancer Society.

If you happen to be in a donating disposition please do; I dare you!

Monday, April 4, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - C is for Chocolate and Consent Culture on Campus

I'm doing an act of kindness (random or otherwise) every day in 2016. That's where B(e) Kind 366 comes from. Last year I blogged A-Z providing alphabetized lists of potential acts of kindness. Here's the C list: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "C."

I'll start with the fun part of this post: Chocolate! For some unknown reason, Chocolate was not on last year's list. Candy was, but not chocolate. Anyway, I just got back from leaving these sweet treats for some unsuspecting students who were studying at the university campus. It just so happens that the brand name of this chocolate is Carnaby and if we want to have even more C fun, the french word for pig is cochon. So we have a Carnaby chocolate cochon on campus for today's act of kindness!

Now for the not-so-fun, but definitely more important, Consent Culture on campus. It's a fact that universities and colleges across North America have a serious issue when it comes to dealing with sexual assault on college and university campuses.

A group of students on the university campus have organized a We Believe Survivors website to allow survivors of sexual assault to anonymously submit their stories. Today, as a lead up to their event on Wednesday - Airing BU's Dirty Laundry - they released this anonymous contract that a survivor of sexual assault was required to sign on campus. The result has been complete and utter outrage at the total disregard for survivors' rights as shown by this gag order. As an entire society we need to move away from rape culture and replace it with consent culture. University and college campuses are a solid place to start!

Saturday, April 2, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - B is for Birthday

The letter B is my favourite letter. I'm sure you can guess why -- my name is Brandy after all! B is also for B(e) Kind 366 and if you've never visited before B(e) is a play on my nickname - "B" - and being kind! B(e) Kind 366 has been years in the making, but 2016 is finally here and I am doing an act of kindness, random or otherwise, every day of this year.

In 2015 I blogged A-Z with lists of acts of kindness for every letter of the alphabet. Here's a link to last year's B list: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with B.

This year the act of kindness I perform on each day of the A-Z Challenge corresponds with the letter of the alphabet for that day of the challenge.

Today B is for Birthday - or better yet, "buy someone birthday dinner."

It's one of my friend's birthday's today so I bought him dinner. To be honest I didn't actually make it to the restaurant, but my husband did and I gave him my debit card to pay for dinner. This particular act wasn't on last year's list, but with 366 different acts to perform, I find myself coming up with a number of acts not on my lists!

One thing that was listed was Big Brothers Big Sisters. Saturday is also the day that my husband and I take our "Little" out. We became a Big Couple earlier this year and it's one of the best things we've done. Today we took him to the Royal Manitoba Winter Fair.

All in all today was a great "B" day!

Friday, April 1, 2016

A to Z Challenge: B(e) Kind 366 - A is for Ally, Activist, & Advocate

For the 2015 A-Z Challenge I posted Random Acts of Kindness ideas for each letter as a lead up to 2016 and the launch of B(e) Kind 366! Now it's 2016 and I've been B(e)ing kind for 92 days now! For A-Z 2016 my plan is take one idea from my alphabetized lists, perform that act, and then blog about it! Fun, right?!

With that said, here's the link to my A List from last year: Random Acts of Kindness beginning with "A". 

My chosen act for "A" is Ally and I'm adding Activist and Advocate as well. 

Yesterday, March 31st was the International Transgender Day of Visibility. This date is recognized as a day dedicated to celebrating transgender people and raising awareness of the discrimination faced by transgender people worldwide. Admittedly, yesterday came and went and I didn't promote #TDOV, but I remembered today. I posted the following video on my facebook page today and try to take steps on a regular basis to do exactly what this video asks allies to do: be an activist ally not an armchair ally! As a cisgendered woman it's important that I recognize and use my privilege to advocate along side folks that don't find life quite as simple as I do. 

I've taken LGBTTQ* awareness and support training and really do try as much as I can to make an active effort to refrain from using gendered language. It's difficult; it really is! If you'd like to see how difficult try telling someone what your weekend plans are without using any gendered terminology: she, he, mom, dad, sister, brother, wife, husband, etc.  

I'll close with this infographic and hope that you'll consider becoming an activist ally/advocate too!

Saturday, January 2, 2016

B(e) Kind 366: Plans for January

I started off B(e) Kind 366 with an act that I've wanted to complete for some time. My hubs and I completed the paperwork to become a Big Couple with Big Brothers Big Sisters. By the end of the month we should have a "Little" matched with us! The commitment is 3-4 hours a week and my mind is full of ideas of ways to spend time with them.

In addition to my acts of kindness, I am taking on a personal challenge every month. For the month of January I've decided to not drive anywhere. I'm going to have to make a few exceptions, but on a daily basis I'll be walking to and from work, the gym, etc. In the summer this wouldn't be such a a big deal, but January in Manitoba makes this challenge a bit more trying. We've had a really mild winter so far by Manitoba standards so here's hoping it stays mild for the extent of January. In either case, I'm prepared as per the photo to the right!

Another part of B(e) Kind 366 is volunteering with a different organization every month. I already volunteer with quite a few organizations, but because I'm attending World University Service of Canada's International Forum later this month and because January is Student Refugee Program Awareness Month, I'm choosing to dedicate some additional time to WUSC this month.

Of course we can't forget that I am raising funds for three charitable organizations during all of this. Since January is my birthday month I'll be honouring everyone who donates $10+ to my project, by reciprocating the gesture with a small gift. I'd love to send to you a token of appreciation so please consider donating!